What do you do if you are a "problem" matter? This can be a very personal problem, a career, a relationship or else be any problem. Are you thinking about, analyzing, brooding and come to a satisfactory result. What remains then is a "negative" feeling.
Our environment is becoming increasingly complex. We can not all information all the knowledge we need to solve a problem, collect, process and with our minds. And we can not solve a problem using the same methods of thinking with which we have created it. We need to address the increasing complexity of new methods.
for growth processes, and elsewhere in everyday life we often deal with our "negative" feelings, with that which pulls us down. Some methods recommend to do to experience this intense. The danger in them to sink. Then we say phrases like "the way it is. So I am. I have to live. "These internal movements are pessimistic and prevent a positive solution.
I have "negative" in quotes deliberately, because feelings are an inner guidance system. And this tells us in every moment, whether we are with what we're thinking about, say or do in accordance with our inner essence. However, we can not just switch off, they point us toward something with which we must deal with.
Any topic bothers us, we experience a "bad" and give the feeling of a label such as "I'm angry, sad, empty," or whatever. But feelings and situations are always complex and the perceived bad feeling is just part of the whole complex situation. We therefore reduce the overall situation on the bad feeling just heard and give it a label, make a complex process practically a "thing". But human experience do not consist of content that have a static form.
feelings are sometimes unclear and difficult to define. It's in their nature. Do we too quickly "clear" feeling it, we standardize them, moving in stereotypes, what our inner experience does not match up.
Among the various methods of dealing with their own feelings, there are two extremes that cause both hard to find a solution. One is the strict self-control, efforts to contain the spirit of to let the body dominate the will to never let go. The other extreme is to control emotions never draw or do then would be whether or complete surrender to his feelings the only natural.
found in the last 30 years will be a great development, in which more and more people discovered their feelings. Numerous methods and movements have engaged in and the pendulum is often strong in the second direction refused. But what if you're deep in his feelings? But then people feel their feelings, but these do not change. People face their problems and live through this again and again, no positive solution forces to find. Remains, apart from a short, intense experience, all the same.
Another way is to analyze problems purely intellectual. We can make the complexity of a situation but do not perceive only intellectually. Moreover, such (self) talks often associated with self-reproach, blocks and lots of chatter. This leads to nothing and we also split us into two people - a didactic and "In the Box". Many make it even more the mistake of treating her inner life as a sadistic prison guard. It is better to ask friendly, to respect themselves and listen to what comes from within.
What is the result of such practices? Some people say "I'm like," but that does the intractability of the situation. And no situation is static and immutable. People are in constant change.
The next common mistake is to assume that if we have a "problem", we can not simultaneously live in joy. We are one with our problem and think that must be depressed until it is resolved. A voice in telling us if we were now in joy, we would run away from the problem. And anyway, what would others think of us know that we have a problem have? We feel bad and feel this condition as normal - after all, others feel so bad. But that's all nonsense.
background is so widespread in our culture either-or thinking. We believe we have only the choice either to run away or to feel bad. But there is a third possibility: we can distance ourselves from our problems and they keep it in mind. Nothing obliges us to become a monument to our problems.
The "body, mind switch"
What can we do? Well, our subconscious is much smarter than our little minds, it houses the knowledge of our internal control system, which is known to communicate through feelings with us.
It is in the following process that I call the "bodymind switch", therefore, to feel everything that is connected to a situation without it immediately to put into words. Words are shells and reduce inner experience. We take it as an opportunity to carry out complex inner experience. It's about the perceived experience to grow a little larger, of which emotion is only a part. We look for the "crux" of a situation.
Specifically
first First, "accept" up one to one (!) Chosen problem. Begin to practice please with a rather easy problem. Create a little distance from him, as you write it in by words on a piece of paper and these lie down a bit away from you. So you create space for yourself and take true that you have indeed this problem, but it is not "are". This solves the problem of identification. It put yourself with an appropriate method for you in a relaxed state. Pay attention to your affairs, especially on the stomach region. Probably a feeling about this situation arises. It may be that in the first few times you no or only a very weak sense verspürst. Practice and have patience.
second If you perceive a feeling, try to Situation as a whole to feel without feeling too quick to pack it into words. You can not address all issues that were a situation, THINK. You can use them but all the same FEEL, because, as already mentioned, our subconscious knows much more about it. Be careful what feeling the problem triggers a whole in you.
A series of thoughts will come up on: analytical theories, self-reproach, blocks and lots of chatter. As all analytical tests back of your mind clear. It's all about how the whole problem feels to really feel all that is connected to a situation. Silence for a while, so you get to the underlying "overall feeling" can penetrate. This "overall feeling" is the comprehensive, vague feeling that raises the whole problem in you. It is vague and blurred.
The overall feel embodies the situation and the subconscious conscious solution. It is about the same as if you wanted to say something and know exactly (fühlst!), what do you think you are missing but the right words.
This "overall feeling" is always beneficial. So if you perceive a feeling that hurts you, it was not enough. Send it off. There was a sense disguised as thought. Do you take a refreshing feeling true, then you have it.
third Now let a word, a sentence or created an image of the overall feel. It stands for the "crux" of the situation. Maybe it's an adjective. Maybe you'll see at the moment still no suitable word, a sentence or a picture to it. Then have patience. It is possible that the original problem has changed in subtle ways. This, too, you feel physically through a "Body-Shift". It is a signal that you have found the right word, the perfect set or the appropriate image. You can ask open-ended questions in order to support this process. Depending on the type of question can react feelings on a particular question or not. Therefore, experimenting with different
questions:
"What is real?" This question may be too specific.
"What is the crux of it?"
"What's the worst part?"
"What worries me the most?"
"What is the central point of this?"
"What needs to happen for me with this?" This is already a forward-looking question.
"What would it take to make me feel better?" Is also a forward-looking question.
The Body-shift on the jumps help
Another method is to ask how the feeling would be if the problem would be solved completely. Waiting a few seconds to feel the shift. You can use the body of the shift can be experienced externally, by example, you sit up straight. So you can imagine the body, as it would be if he felt all right. Consider this well-established sense, when you reach it and tell yourself: ". So I can feel myself always" Then wait and see. Maybe something saying to you. "No, can not you always feel" Then ask that something be what it is. Go step by step, you a talk that everything is solved until a new objection comes. Always holding fast to your good feeling. Make it a feeling, when you can always come back. If you know the solution - the objective sense - do you know you can ask what you stand in the way. So you can find solutions which would not have considered the problem found her.
Analyze and interpret not your problems. This may prevent you from a shift. Many believe to know everything about their problems and try to push in a certain direction. But our subconscious knows a lot more accessible. Once inside you like: "It must ... be "hear, you're on the wrong track. You do what you have always done - teach you themselves. Better keep a questioning attitude inside.
4th If you are sure that your word / phrase / image fits the situation ask further: "Why is it that causes this problem in me that particular feeling? What is this problem that I am so ... do? What is the bad feeling on this? What does it take to make it better? What should happen? What would it feel if everything was OK? What stands in the way? "Make sure you have the felt sense fresh and lively feel and do not drift into the analysis. Next question: "What about this feeling?"
Do not answer himself, he would always just old information out of your head, but wait, that the feeling excited and give you an answer. If you get a quick answer, without a "shift", a physical feeling of relaxation and relief occurs in the general sense, let pass the answer.
5th Receive everything that comes with a shift, in a responsive attitude. Let it work for you for a while. There will be further shifts. Be thankful that your subconscious has spoken to you through your body.
You have the answers do not discuss or think, just accept. Dedicate every little shift for a full minute.
It may be that a shift occurs much later, perhaps the next morning in the shower or when you open your newspaper and find a particular item will leap into the eye. Just stay open for answers.
Steps 3, 4 and 5, with no transitions or take place in parallel. Overall, sufficient for the process 30 minutes. If you're a little practice, you can even do it at any time in between, even while waiting for the train.
unlike other methods that work with emotions
The "bodymind switch" regarded emotions as part of a complex global situation. It creates an inner distance to the emotion and the related problem and uses the wisdom of the subconscious. Thus, solutions are found, either through intellectual analysis still arise by pure "bathing" in the emotion would.
Remember: Practise this method at first light with a few Alltagsproblemchen.
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